Through Mistakes, We Turn into Better Designers.

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I have always wondered why as human beings, when we hear the word ‘failure’, we normally associate it with only negative attributes. Yes, I agree with the dictionary definition  that failure is ‘the lack of success or the omission of the expected.’ I however  tend to dismiss it from dominating my mind,since  on closer analysis, in most cases what we actually call failure are mere mistakes. You may have setbacks, you may have to start all over again, but that doesn’t guarantee that  you have failed, you can still succeed. That should not divert you from efforts to achieve your goals.  As individuals, whenever we fail, we should  take it as an opportunity to rethink, to reframe the possible avenues of trying again.

Mistakes only mean that an idea or concept has failed, not the applicant. Unfortunately many of us take it the other way round. Failure is human, and we all make mistakes but we should always endeavour not to dwell on them. They should not take control over us, they should only be a platform to help us identify the ideas that didn’t work, so that we can take another chance to come up with even better ones that will work out so well. When we admit our mistakes, it gives us the freedom and space to come up with solutions and ways of doing things better the next time we get an opportunity to.

This means that much as we always associate failure with a lot of negatives, it’s probably not that bad. Because at the end of the day, we are in a better position to learn the difference between failure and making mistakes. When we make mistakes, more often than not, it’s because our ideas and concepts failed. But so what?, as individuals, we only fail when we fail to acknowledge and accept lack of achievement and we give up trying. And any opportunity to try again is an opportunity to turn out bigger and better, so never underestimate it.  Of Course there will always be the negative voice trying to turn it all into a mess, but if only we can all learn to consider the glass as half full instead of half empty. Because even failure doesn’t mean that the whole attempt was totally flawed, it instead could only be a sign of one or more minor miscalculations that could have put us short of success. If we can take it all as an opportunity other than a barrier, we shall realise that once acknowledged, within every failure, are lessons that must be learnt so as to succeed in future attempts at the same or other endeavours. Remember Success is also failure turned inside out., so embrace your mistakes, learn from them and keep going, the next trial will breed better results.    

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Say Hello To You!

Jacqui Senn

waking up positiveSay hello to the  new and improved you. The one who

is willing to take on new challenges. Greet the new you first thing in the

morning  before you start your day. Introduce her/him to everyone you

come into contact with. They will be excited to meet someone new and to

learn more about this person. For, most people want to hear a fresh

perspective to an old view. This new you will allow you to change your

story and move forward the way it was meant to be. Do not concern

yourself with what other people will think. Once they get to really know the

new you, (believe me they are going to want to know)you will be fending

them off at every turn. Nothing makes people more of a magnet to others

than someone who is committed to making a positive change  in their lives.

 

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Are you the world’s greatest friend?

God gives us our relatives, but thank God we chose our own friends..Today I will talk about friendship because I have noticed that there is just so much  to say about it. We all have friends, of the different categories in life. I for one, have come across all sorts of friends; great ones, good ones, not so good ones and the downright, ‘not-so-good-enough’ ones. (sorry to be that point black), but sometimes its only necessary that I should call a spade a spade.

Great friends are the ones who understand you. They know all about you and love you just the same. They influence you positively and are always at your beck and call. Imagine if you were stranded somewhere and needed someone to pick you up, do you have the type of friend who would come to the rescue? If your ‘great friend’ is the kind who will lie to you and say that they’ll come and pick you but instead pull the covers over their head the second the calls ends, or one who will always find an excuse to being there for you, that leaves question marks. Great friends are reliable, there are people you can count on; no matter the weather, season or circumstances. They will always work towards your achievement, because they respect your dreams and believe in you.

‘Not-so-good-enough’ friends are those who you think are laughing with you but are really laughing at you. They are the kind that insist on ruining your life no matter the cost (of course through a lot of pretense) only to reveal their true nature after more than enough damage has been made. They come into your life with a purpose and they will eventually disappear once that purpose has been fulfilled. They will downplay your worth, disrespect you and try to make you believe that you are not worth anything.  You innocently think they are genuine individuals but their agenda is of another kind and it’s never a good one.If it’s not to disapprove your worth, it is to meet their own selfish intentions, and trust me they will work towards just that. They will pretend all their life that they believe in you, yet in actual sense, they are working towards your downfall.They will take you for granted build on your weaknesses as a person and exploit you along the same, instead of helping you turn them into strengths.  Be wary of this kind.

Not so good friends however, will only love you when you have something to give or, when they can benefit from you in some way. The second things go sour in your life; they run out at such a speed that would ‘put Usain Bolt to shame.’ When you get back on your feet later, they will shamelessly remember that you even happen to have a phone number. In brief, they only love you when conditions are favorable for them, when they need you. And once that equation has been solved, they will pretend they only just realized you just can’t be friends. They will fly off, and only remember that you actually were once a friend when they need you again.

Great friends must not be taken for granted. They are a treasure like no other –this means no ruby, diamond, emerald or pearl can ever measure up to them. It also means that you have to make an effort to be that kind of person too, in their lives. Great friends are the “all-time” friends, and reliability is key for them.

I had a click of friends back in my ‘hey days’  and every time I sit down and reflect on that time, I have no idea why we were ever friends. Of course, there was the occasional gossip of who said what about whom, but at the end of the day, none of these would put any of us to a higher level.

It later dawned on me that we were never friends. We just liked hanging out together. There was nothing positive we ever did for each other. We were selfish and very immature.We were too much into each other’s lives but we didn’t get anything constructive from each other.Years later, I have come across some of them and it saddens me that they haven’t changed one bit.

It is still all about who will be seen where and who will wear the hottest outfit. You would think that after all these years; a person would be less enthusiastic about life in the fabulous lane (especially when you are not so fabulous).

I suppose that if I had chosen the right path from the start, my life would have been different. But I refuse to regret the time I wasted trying to fit in because that path also brought me some good things. Things I can’t live without now, things I am more than grateful for in my life.

There is still plenty of time to make influential friends (if you haven’t already). I have made some of those over the years and in my perspective, they are everything a friend should be. I too, want to be that friend to them. I too, want them to feel they can always count on me. I just want to be the world’s greatest friend, at least to the few who know what it means to be a friend, and I am well on my way there.

Ask my real friends, at least I got a couple of them!

Celebrate the Hero in you!

We are all heroes, in our own way, it doesn’t matter what the situation is but if you ever manage to come out in good shape, never take that moment for granted. Even when a situation proves too stubborn to clear out, it doesn’t matter, what really matters is the way you come out of  it. So, don’t you ever get wasted because of a season, it’s only a temporary chapter of your life anyway, and eventually you will need to refresh your life. Whenever you allow a particular condition to control you, you block the process of transformation that you are going through for you to make it to a higher level…and chances are after that you will dwell at one step for quite a long time.

Now, all said and done, concentrate more on the person in you. Look out for what actually helps you grow, not what keeps your head down in wonder of how to go about the following step or shame of what the previous step depicted of your personality. Live every moment like no one is promising a chance for tomorrow (or like someone left that main gate open), in other words, be your own hero. You don’t have to wait for someone to bail you out of a scenario, it may never be.Yet, if you manage to pull off the bait, they will draw closer; we’ve seen these things happen.

Whenever a hard-nut situation arises, in most cases, people rarely stand by, we tend to give it up so easily. It’s actually a little ironic, in most cases people who always say “I’m going to be here for you forever” are the ones who tend to walk away first..and then you wonder how long forever just became. At least me and you know (or maybe not) it’s actually easier said than done, because in real sense being there for someone through certain circumstances actually calls for real strength. And only a few strong ones stick through  the end, and those are the ones I am talking about  today. Because , it actually doesn’t matter how the end is like, what really matters are the ‘not-so-easy’ times that you hold on to life, despite the odds, of course  along the sacrifices you made to make it to that point. . And when it appears that you have made it to the end,when you can give it no more, then you will eventually give it up, so that someone else can take over what you started. That’s what heroes do anyways, keep trying at something, give it their all for as long as time still allows. In the due process, even if you never get to achieve your target, at least the next person in the queue will find it easy to continue with the journey.

In any case, the probability that you are going to fail should never deter you from trying anyways, because the most important thing is not actually winning the race, but being a part of it, through it all. Many people have tried and failed, but that’s not the most important bit, the most important thing is that they have helped themselves up and tried for the second and third time. It’s all because of the hero-spirit in them that never gives up, no matter the challenges. Life is not a piece of gold served on a silver plate, so whichever turn you may take, you may just never find enough. It’s only on rare occasions that you may ever achieve something without really having sacrificed another. So, why not be your own hero, so in the end you celebrate how much the step you took meant to you!

You will fall down and you will fail, but those things are just lessons. The only true failure is the failure to keep trying.

2 Reasons to LOVE STRESS!!

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Is stress always bad? We answer that question in this post by drawing distinctions between distress and eustress. One stress empowers us, excites us and motivates us; while the other evokes fear, worry and weakness.

Let’s dive right in!

2 Reasons to love stress? What? Huh?  This guy must be crazy!

Let me explain…

Many times we lump the feelings of discomfort, anxiety, uncertainty, procrastination and nervousness as stress. Right? Also, many times we look at stress as FULLY and SOLELY negative. Which, believe it or not, couldn’t be further from the truth.

Let’s take a closer look!

Science shows us that there is actually two forms of stress. The bad kind, distress, and the good kind, eustress. Distress is what we feel when we have procrastinated, lack s

elf confidence, get yelled at by a boss or a loved on

e or go through a traumatic experience.  Distress distracts…

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It was a ‘Home-Sweet-Home’ Feeling!

One of those times I wished for something and I had it right before me, I could never be more grateful. Now, for the past two weeks, I had what I have repeatedly called my ‘family month’, not because I have no clue it falls in neither June nor July, or that it actually didn’t even make a month-long but because every minute seemed like worth more than that.

This time, I can only say it came in when most needed, at a time when I really felt like i needed some ‘me-time’ (like I normally love to call it, at Least some time to think through a couple of things and also get some fresh air. Now I can confidently say, you should try it out sometime,it brings out meaning for some things.

My first stop over was my village, where all memories about home came back, refreshed, making me feel like I hadn’t been there in year.(Don’t be deceived, it was only December last year). But i have a reason for this, this is one place where I get to refresh all the innocent childhood memories, the days when my worst day would be a day when i missed breakfast or lunch. O, yeah,plus one more thing, it’s the only place where I get to be pampered and there are no worries of whether it’s a genuine or made-up treat. Like, i receive every treat with widely open hands, and it all spices up the homey-feeling, because I know that it’s from a genuine heart.

Somehow, this kind of thought made me enjoy my stay like never before, because i knew I would never have to defend anything I did or even fear that it would make someone else feel or think anything else than what I intended. In brief, its one place that I always love to act myself, and for that, I have always treasured it. Besides, my dear old mum wears an ‘I-missed-you” smile, even though she would never mention that verbally. :-)this used to kill me softly until i got used she was being herself, and totally nothing behind it.

As an additional spice, I had two beautiful nieces to check out! ooh! these lightened up my world! God, I would never ask for more! As they smiled, I would only send a quick prayer to God to bless their hearts, so they live a full life, and that they would never have to lie, cheat, or steal . Yes, I know you wondering how the combination comes in but this is the root cause of most chaos around.

So, yes, from there i had to head to the long-awaited moment, one of the other things that gets me excited whenever I have some room to talk about, the ‘Rotaract moment!’Its always a great excitement meeting being part of a world of Rotaractors, and this was one of them. Normally, they are people who I look at always consider of high integrity, so it’s always a pleasure being part of this crowd. As for this, I actually managed to make myself new friends from all over East Africa. Yes, that’s how good, of course next time it will be bigger and better. Now, with these ones, I had totally mad fun, because after the ‘had-been long awaited project’, we had one of the crazy nights…just like i had expected. This is the only time I realized that apart from burning calories, dancing  brings about a good heart, because the following day, eeeeish! I was all smiles, despite the fatigue from the long night.

To crown it all, my following week was dubbed with more ‘friends, friends, and family’ moments, trust me to give it such a name, because I happened to meet most of my high school friends,and it was an awesome feeling catching up with them. Now, if anything, these were real friends.

Every minute I spent with any of my friends here counted, because it’s the only reason I feel contented after my stay. It was all worth it, of course it can never be enough. Because day in day out, I was always tempted to push it longer, but hell no! Duty calls!

So, because I couldn’t let go easily, I had to make up one other night of crazy moments and loud music.and this had to be at a spot in one of the favorite places of mine. Courtesy of  the amazing people who made this happen, it was a good way of saying say good-bye. Before I knew it, all i had with me were memories of my stay in the Pearl of Africa as I was on my way  back to the beautiful land of 1000 hills. I never realized the impact of everything until I started my dozing sessions at my desk at work..So, as for now, back to business..my time away brought some magic with it.

Rotaract just keeps rolling- R.E.A.C.T 2013

One of those times we go East African!

Rotaract Club Of Kigali City

Ah, this was magic! Rotaractors don’t gather from across East Africa everyday…this one was a year ender, a fitting send off for a year that was full of projects, fun and well- ROTARACT!

On 29th July 2013, all traffic to Masaka, UG was diverted to alternative routes as the Rotaract juggernaut rolled into town. The Rotaract Club of Masaka played host to the first East African Joint Project, hosting Rotaractors from Burundi, Kenya, Rwanda and Uganda. The point? One or two schools could use some hand washing training.

No one wants kids to fall ill of things Rotaract can handle so in we strolled with hand washing equipment (stands and containers), hard and liquid soap, enough knowledge and some serious music (the music was for club consumption, don’t be alarmed); but before we could get started, we needed to dress up- we had some sweet t-shirts for emphasis- and while…

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