And finally…to the arrival of 2014!

One of the end of 2013 highlights
One of my ‘end of  2013’ highlights

If I must shout  it out once again, Thank you God, for a new year, 2014! How could I even miss out on writing something about 2014? I was only busy busy but i knew this would eventually show up..So, if you are reading this, then you and I must be the luckiest beings to having made it to January 1,2014.

It wasnt by accident or just by chance, there must be a BiG reason why we made it to the top ~ probably a mission to fulfil and then take off peacefully.  I would never tell what is coming along this year but at every thought of this year, my heart skips a little. It feels like earth is just about to break lose!…O, let me stop this because it is probably keeping you curious..:-) It’s only a feeling.

But at least one thing am certain about, I couldn’t wait to let 2013 go! I only hope it took along with it all the memories i had kept in the trash box..coz I can’t keep them anymore.  It simply took so long! But then again, thanks to everyone else, I got some particular moments that caught my attention. (I will stick to the rule of focusing on good memories and letting go of the ugly ones; so here is a recap)

Of course to many it doesn’t ring a bell, am only glad that I got some of those moments that really meant so much to me for moments to wind up my 2013,but  i gotta hold on to those. First of all, unlike the normal tradition of trekking down to my village for Christmas like the rest of the world, I stayed back to share it with my housemate and some of my colleagues that also  couldn’t leave the country for one reason or another.

This one made my day with endless stories
And trust me, come 25th December 2013, our house was the only place to be!After inviting in a couple of friends, we randomly got ourselves very exciting company..We all watched the night turn around while  pulling all the famous dance moves, eating, drinking and laughing out loud. It was all one big happy family, many thanks to everyone who stormed the house. You made it so hard for me to wake up the following day! But of course being my most favorite day of the year (If it wasn’t for that day, you’d probably never have met me),  I had to step out and check out my long time dream..sharing it with some lovely kids in the outskirts of Kigali. Oooh! it was a lovely afternoon, having to having to play around like it was a replay of  my life’s golden days!  and listening to innocent happy voices for a couple of hours…Sometimes it feels like heaven. 

At the end of the day, I and my travel-mate were completely exhausted..I actually almost dozed off my seat in the bus. So, after such a long day, I was only grateful that nothing kept me back, that i instead kept going with all that I had for a long time wished to do., I felt like it had been a useful journey.

Fortunately or unfortunately, I now thought the last point would be my room, where I would close myself in my little crib, then quietly reminisce about my day, I end up to a house full of strangers. Good thing I wasn’t given time to identify the faces that had showed up or even think of a plan B; either running out of the house for a random destination (I tell you, I would just run for life) or at least throwing them out (after all, that was my home! On addition to interrupting my evening plans ), otherwise,we would have staged a nice play. So, whoever came up with the “shower” idea, the other people must have paid you something!

And to my Judas Iscariot, aka my travel mate, a revenge is still underway! So, ya! that marked the beginning of an end to my favorite day, me and my heart, we say ‘thank you’ to everyone who spared their precious time for the evening! I had never seen my room done any better! :-).

Now instead of  the quiet evening that I had earlier thought of, I was treated to another evening of laughing out loud, more food and more dancing! At least i got to realise I got a team of jolly good fellows…I should say thanks to those guys, for trekking 2013 with me…and for being nice! Don’t exclude selef  in 2014! 

And now 31st December gave me one of those simple joyful ways of ushering in a new year, unexpected, unplanned but it all happened in a very promising mood. Staying with a couple of friends and a cute-looking baby girl (God, thank you for this baby), 2014 knocked our door too, giving a decent send-off of the notorious 2013!

Now this was a big change, I was only used to ushering the new year in church, I had never thought of it otherwise, but I didn’t regret the change tho’! It was another treat to a house full of laughter because of the guys blessed with a sense of humor, we all  started counting down to the end of the year, yet welcoming a new year that so many of us are looking up to.Until  some people couldn’t resist the urge to hunt for fireworks around the streets, it was an amazing time we had! Now, i also had to take off to my next destination! It was all funnn!!! Like one of my resolutions, I will keep sticking to what my heart finds appealing,  Life is short!

After such a beautiful beginning, I will definitely look up to so much more in this year…So help me God! 


For the love of playtime!
God bless the Children!

Are you the world’s greatest friend?

God gives us our relatives, but thank God we chose our own friends..Today I will talk about friendship because I have noticed that there is just so much  to say about it. We all have friends, of the different categories in life. I for one, have come across all sorts of friends; great ones, good ones, not so good ones and the downright, ‘not-so-good-enough’ ones. (sorry to be that point black), but sometimes its only necessary that I should call a spade a spade.

Great friends are the ones who understand you. They know all about you and love you just the same. They influence you positively and are always at your beck and call. Imagine if you were stranded somewhere and needed someone to pick you up, do you have the type of friend who would come to the rescue? If your ‘great friend’ is the kind who will lie to you and say that they’ll come and pick you but instead pull the covers over their head the second the calls ends, or one who will always find an excuse to being there for you, that leaves question marks. Great friends are reliable, there are people you can count on; no matter the weather, season or circumstances. They will always work towards your achievement, because they respect your dreams and believe in you.

‘Not-so-good-enough’ friends are those who you think are laughing with you but are really laughing at you. They are the kind that insist on ruining your life no matter the cost (of course through a lot of pretense) only to reveal their true nature after more than enough damage has been made. They come into your life with a purpose and they will eventually disappear once that purpose has been fulfilled. They will downplay your worth, disrespect you and try to make you believe that you are not worth anything.  You innocently think they are genuine individuals but their agenda is of another kind and it’s never a good one.If it’s not to disapprove your worth, it is to meet their own selfish intentions, and trust me they will work towards just that. They will pretend all their life that they believe in you, yet in actual sense, they are working towards your downfall.They will take you for granted build on your weaknesses as a person and exploit you along the same, instead of helping you turn them into strengths.  Be wary of this kind.

Not so good friends however, will only love you when you have something to give or, when they can benefit from you in some way. The second things go sour in your life; they run out at such a speed that would ‘put Usain Bolt to shame.’ When you get back on your feet later, they will shamelessly remember that you even happen to have a phone number. In brief, they only love you when conditions are favorable for them, when they need you. And once that equation has been solved, they will pretend they only just realized you just can’t be friends. They will fly off, and only remember that you actually were once a friend when they need you again.

Great friends must not be taken for granted. They are a treasure like no other –this means no ruby, diamond, emerald or pearl can ever measure up to them. It also means that you have to make an effort to be that kind of person too, in their lives. Great friends are the “all-time” friends, and reliability is key for them.

I had a click of friends back in my ‘hey days’  and every time I sit down and reflect on that time, I have no idea why we were ever friends. Of course, there was the occasional gossip of who said what about whom, but at the end of the day, none of these would put any of us to a higher level.

It later dawned on me that we were never friends. We just liked hanging out together. There was nothing positive we ever did for each other. We were selfish and very immature.We were too much into each other’s lives but we didn’t get anything constructive from each other.Years later, I have come across some of them and it saddens me that they haven’t changed one bit.

It is still all about who will be seen where and who will wear the hottest outfit. You would think that after all these years; a person would be less enthusiastic about life in the fabulous lane (especially when you are not so fabulous).

I suppose that if I had chosen the right path from the start, my life would have been different. But I refuse to regret the time I wasted trying to fit in because that path also brought me some good things. Things I can’t live without now, things I am more than grateful for in my life.

There is still plenty of time to make influential friends (if you haven’t already). I have made some of those over the years and in my perspective, they are everything a friend should be. I too, want to be that friend to them. I too, want them to feel they can always count on me. I just want to be the world’s greatest friend, at least to the few who know what it means to be a friend, and I am well on my way there.

Ask my real friends, at least I got a couple of them!

It was a ‘Home-Sweet-Home’ Feeling!

One of those times I wished for something and I had it right before me, I could never be more grateful. Now, for the past two weeks, I had what I have repeatedly called my ‘family month’, not because I have no clue it falls in neither June nor July, or that it actually didn’t even make a month-long but because every minute seemed like worth more than that.

This time, I can only say it came in when most needed, at a time when I really felt like i needed some ‘me-time’ (like I normally love to call it, at Least some time to think through a couple of things and also get some fresh air. Now I can confidently say, you should try it out sometime,it brings out meaning for some things.

My first stop over was my village, where all memories about home came back, refreshed, making me feel like I hadn’t been there in year.(Don’t be deceived, it was only December last year). But i have a reason for this, this is one place where I get to refresh all the innocent childhood memories, the days when my worst day would be a day when i missed breakfast or lunch. O, yeah,plus one more thing, it’s the only place where I get to be pampered and there are no worries of whether it’s a genuine or made-up treat. Like, i receive every treat with widely open hands, and it all spices up the homey-feeling, because I know that it’s from a genuine heart.

Somehow, this kind of thought made me enjoy my stay like never before, because i knew I would never have to defend anything I did or even fear that it would make someone else feel or think anything else than what I intended. In brief, its one place that I always love to act myself, and for that, I have always treasured it. Besides, my dear old mum wears an ‘I-missed-you” smile, even though she would never mention that verbally. :-)this used to kill me softly until i got used she was being herself, and totally nothing behind it.

As an additional spice, I had two beautiful nieces to check out! ooh! these lightened up my world! God, I would never ask for more! As they smiled, I would only send a quick prayer to God to bless their hearts, so they live a full life, and that they would never have to lie, cheat, or steal . Yes, I know you wondering how the combination comes in but this is the root cause of most chaos around.

So, yes, from there i had to head to the long-awaited moment, one of the other things that gets me excited whenever I have some room to talk about, the ‘Rotaract moment!’Its always a great excitement meeting being part of a world of Rotaractors, and this was one of them. Normally, they are people who I look at always consider of high integrity, so it’s always a pleasure being part of this crowd. As for this, I actually managed to make myself new friends from all over East Africa. Yes, that’s how good, of course next time it will be bigger and better. Now, with these ones, I had totally mad fun, because after the ‘had-been long awaited project’, we had one of the crazy nights…just like i had expected. This is the only time I realized that apart from burning calories, dancing  brings about a good heart, because the following day, eeeeish! I was all smiles, despite the fatigue from the long night.

To crown it all, my following week was dubbed with more ‘friends, friends, and family’ moments, trust me to give it such a name, because I happened to meet most of my high school friends,and it was an awesome feeling catching up with them. Now, if anything, these were real friends.

Every minute I spent with any of my friends here counted, because it’s the only reason I feel contented after my stay. It was all worth it, of course it can never be enough. Because day in day out, I was always tempted to push it longer, but hell no! Duty calls!

So, because I couldn’t let go easily, I had to make up one other night of crazy moments and loud music.and this had to be at a spot in one of the favorite places of mine. Courtesy of  the amazing people who made this happen, it was a good way of saying say good-bye. Before I knew it, all i had with me were memories of my stay in the Pearl of Africa as I was on my way  back to the beautiful land of 1000 hills. I never realized the impact of everything until I started my dozing sessions at my desk at work..So, as for now, back to time away brought some magic with it.